I'm not sure why the Lord has me posting this sort of blog at this time of year, but I have to obey..
1Cor 13 verse 5 has got to be one of the hardest scriptures in the bible;
"..It (love) takes no account of the evil done to it, and pays no attention to a suffered wrong.."
(Amplified Version).
When something heinous is done toward us..and seemingly 'out of the blue,' particularly, when it's someone you've previously had a good relationship with, it's hurtful, and there can be feelings of outrage..
First thing to say is, Father God understands our initial reaction, but will be waiting to see what we're going to do about it..
Plus, our adversary (the devil) who most likely instigated the thing in the first place, is now going to remind us every 5 minutes about the evil deed because he wants to make our spiritual lives ineffectual and weak, and this is exactly the way to do it..
Jesus told us in Matthew 18 v 35; That, if we refuse to forgive our brothers and sisters from our hearts, neither will He forgive us..'
"..But you don't know what they did!"
It doesn't really matter what they did, if God told us to forgive, then it is within our ability to do it..because He is going to help us if we will just lay aside our emotions and simply 'choose' to obey..
A good few years ago, the Lord spoke something into my heart and I can remember exactly where I was when He said it..
He told me;
"..Some people are walking round with such grievous wounds in their emotions that if they were to suddenly become visible, everyone would start calling for an ambulance.."
But He understands, and not only wants to heal and restore us, but will also take care of the situation on our behalf if we will purposely commit it into His hands..
I hope the following testimony will help..
Years ago, when I was involved with horses, I was good friends with another livery on the yard called Maggie (not her real name). Then one day, quite out of the blue, she did something totally unexpected..
Led of the Lord, I had recently given up the Conamarra pony we were currently loaning, and had sold him to a woman on the same yard who was a hotel owner and already had two horses of her own.
It was upsetting to let Connor go but was blessed when the women told me I could still ride him whenever I wanted..
Meanwhile, this friend Maggie was suddenly becoming extremely pushy and unbeknownst to me, had begun finagling around in an effort to take over the pony for her own ambitions..
The first I heard of it was when she approached me one day telling me I could no longer ride Connor (as he was called) because she and her daughter would now be training him to compete in the local shows..
It was hurtful because, not only had the new owners said nothing to me regarding this, Connor, who was used to being brought in from the field along with our other horses, was now to be left to her, and if she was late (which was mostly the case) he was left out on his own..
It got to the point, I dreaded coming to the yard..
I remember walking round the village where I lived one day, and hearing that 'still small voice' saying; 'You're going to have to forgive her..'
I said; 'Lord, I just can't..'
However, through His 'gentle wooing,' by the time I got back home I'd made the decision to forgive..
Well, after that initial confession, the memory kept coming back of everything she'd done (along with the hurt) but every time I just kept saying; 'No...I refuse that thought, I have chosen to forgive!'
It took 3 weeks. But at the end of that time, there was no longer any hurt associated with the memory because the Lord had healed it..
Eventually, the woman who had bought Conner, left the yard taking him with her. Afterwards, Maggie continued to badger other liveries in an effort to take over their horses until one day she was ordered to leave the yard..
Another encouragement is that once you've been hurt at the very deepest place and have come through it with a contrite heart, nothing after that will ever be as bad and you will get over it much faster..
A few years ago I was romantically involved with someone to whom, in my heart, I had given my all, holding nothing back. It wasn't enough, and, sad to say, for some people it never will be!
Yes, it took a long time to work through...years even, ...but whenever I thought about it, I kept on choosing to forgive, and so The Divine Physician was able to thoroughly heal and restore my heart, which He will always do if we will just cooperate with the process..
Peace returned...which is what Jesus came to give us..and so I have been able to 'move on' with my life. But we cannot move on with offense in our heart..it will just fester, infecting all of our relationships, and most likely, further down the line, our health..
Separating the person from the thing they did, does make it easier to forgive..
Yes, the thing they did may have been unforgivable..but we can choose to forgive 'them'.
The trick is, not to consult with your emotions which will only say; 'No way!'
You have to just use your will to do it...just because the Lord said so!
If you don't, or if you've stuffed it away, undealt with, somewhere in the deep recesses of your soul, you will be tormented by the memory, and remain anchored to it the rest of your life because, sad to say, you will now be in the hands of the devil who will be cock-a-hoop he's managed to bring you under his control..
It's vital we treat offence like an ugly stain on our clothing that needs to be gotten rid of at all costs...because that's what it is!
Particularly, if it was some sort of willful abuse, or a breach of trust, then that should be a matter to prayerfully sort out between you and the Lord, and maybe a trusted church minister..
No one is exempt from offence because we live in a wicked world that's getting darker every day, so we may as well decide up front that we are not going to accept it, in any way, shape or form and, more importantly, recognise where it's really coming from (which is the pit of hell!)
I mean, where would we be now if the long-suffering Gromit had not chosen to forgive Wallace? (Many times!!)
It's unthinkable.. (Hahaha)
"Merry~Christmas!"
'..Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men..'
Luke 2 v 14
'..For the thief (the devil) comes only to steal, kill and destroy;
I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full..'
John 10 v 10
'..Great peace have they which love Your law; and nothing shall offend them..'
Psalm 119 v 165
'..Consider Him (Jesus) Who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart..'
Hebrews 12 v 3